Driving home from work today I did my usual phone call to Petja. We talked about my crazy day and the ridiculous shenanigans that happen in a grade 8 class. As I pulled in the driveway after my 6 min drive I could tell that he had a crappy day. The sun was shining, the cold had subsided a bit. It was beautiful! As I walked in the door my first words were, “Daddy, get dressed. You are going for a run”.
Being in tune with your partner is important for everyone and in every relationship. However, for partners who are runners there is a whole other aspect of life that you have to navigate. It can be cooperative and supportive and competitive all at the same time. You need to be able to relate to each other, athlete to athlete, to read the signs and figure out what each other needs to move them forward as runners.
So, how do you know if you are in tune with your athlete and partner? HaHaHa! If I could answer that for everyone then 1 in 4 Canadian marriages would not end in divorce. I think that the answer is different for every couple. So, I guess what I am writing about is how we know when we are in sync. We just read the signs and pay attention.
1.) Just by speaking on the phone we can usually tell if the other needs to go for a run.
- Today was a perfect example. Pet had not had a chance to tell me about what went on in his day but I could tell by the tone in his voice that he NEEDED to get out there.
2.) We (usually) know when to push and when to back off.
- So this is the point when I refer you to my last post Thankful For My Partner In Stride as an example of the good. But admittedly, we are both still working on this one. Usually we get it right but occasionally we annoy each other when we push too hard. Sometimes I push Petja too hard to go for a training run and it drives him crazy. A few years ago we were both running the Scotiabank Toronto Waterfront Half Marathon. Petja was injured and running it (instead of the marathon) “for fun” (kind of annoying). He started in the corral behind me and was stopping to take “Runfies” (running selfies) with every volunteer he could find and he still caught up to me (super annoying). Then, as I start to get tired he tried to encourage me and get me to push myself but I just wanted him to… be quite 😉 At times it backfires on both of us even after almost 19 years together but we take those times as learning experiences and try not to make the same mistakes twice.
3.) We can guess what each other is going to wear.
- I don’t know if it is based on the temperature, the direction of the sun, the day of the week or knowledge of our favorite gear. Somehow we are just not surprised when the other appears from the closet, the basement or where ever donning their outfit of choice. There are even days when we are running together that we meet at the front door wearing the same colour combination. In the end, one of us changes the shirt so that we don’t look like total losers on the trails.